20 Saucy Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship (Thank Me Later!)
Hey there, lovebirds! Let’s have a little chat about keeping the spark alive, shall we? Whether you’ve been together for a few months or a few decades, every relationship can use a little spicing up now and then. Trust me, I’ve been writing about relationships long enough to know that even the hottest flames can use some stoking from time to time.
Now, before you start thinking I’m about to suggest some fifty shades of crazy stuff, relax! These tips are all about reconnecting, having fun, and maybe pushing your boundaries just a tad. Ready to add some zing to your relationship? Let’s dive in!
1. Try a New Adventure Together
Okay, let’s kick things off with a bit of adrenaline! Nothing bonds two people quite like a shared adventure. I’m talking about things like skydiving, rock climbing, or even just trying out that new escape room in town.
Why it works: Trying new, exciting things together releases dopamine in your brain – the same chemical that was going crazy when you first fell in love. Plus, overcoming challenges together can really strengthen your bond. Who knows, you might even discover a new shared passion!
Pro tip: Start small if you’re not usually the adventurous type. Even something like taking a cooking class together can be a fun new experience.
2. Plan a Surprise Date Night
I know, I know, you’ve heard this one before. But hear me out – I’m not talking about your standard dinner and a movie. I mean really surprise your partner with something unique and tailored to their interests.
Why it works: It shows you’ve put thought and effort into making your partner happy. Plus, the element of surprise adds excitement and anticipation.
Ideas to get you started: How about a sunset picnic in an unexpected location? Or tickets to see their favorite band? Maybe a scavenger hunt around town that ends with a romantic surprise?
3. Spice Things Up in the Bedroom
Alright, let’s talk about s*x, baby! If things have gotten a bit… predictable in the bedroom, it’s time to shake things up. This doesn’t mean you need to go full Fifty Shades (unless you want to, of course). Even small changes can make a big difference.
Why it works: Novelty is a key ingredient in s*xual excitement. Trying new things together can increase intimacy and reignite that s*xual spark.
Some ideas (keeping it PG-13 here): Try new positions, introduce some toys, play out a fantasy, or even just change up the location. How about a steamy shower session or a midnight rendezvous in the living room?
4. Start a Two-Person Book Club
For all you bookworms out there, why not start a book club just for the two of you? Pick a book you’re both interested in and set aside time to discuss it.
Why it works: It gives you new topics to discuss beyond the daily grind. Plus, seeing how your partner interprets the story can give you new insights into their thoughts and feelings.
Bonus points: Choose a steamy romance novel and read the spicy parts to each other. Trust me, it can be quite the turn-on!
5. Have a Technology-Free Day
I can already hear some of you groaning, but stick with me here. Try spending an entire day without phones, tablets, computers, or TV. Just you and your partner, like the good old days.
Why it works: It forces you to focus on each other without distractions. You might be surprised at the conversations you have and the connections you make when you’re not constantly checking your phone.
What to do instead: Play board games, go for a walk, cook together, or just talk. Rediscover the art of eye contact and undivided attention!
6. Learn a New Skill Together
Always wanted to learn how to salsa dance? Or maybe you’re both curious about photography? Sign up for a class or workshop together!
Why it works: Learning something new together puts you both in a vulnerable position. You get to support each other, laugh at your mistakes, and celebrate your progress. It’s a great way to create new shared experiences.
Ideas to consider: Cooking classes, dance lessons, art workshops, language courses – the possibilities are endless!
7. Plan a Staycation
Can’t get away for a real vacation? No problem! Turn your home into a luxury resort for a weekend.
Why it works: It breaks you out of your normal routine and allows you to focus on relaxation and each other, without the stress and expense of travel.
How to do it: Clean the house beforehand (or splurge on a cleaning service), stock up on your favorite foods and drinks, maybe even decorate a bit. Plan activities like couple’s massages, movie marathons, or trying out new recipes together.
8. Write Love Letters to Each Other
In this age of texts and emojis, there’s something special about a handwritten love letter. Take the time to write down what you love and appreciate about your partner.
Why it works: It encourages you to really think about why you love your partner and express it in a meaningful way. Plus, your partner gets a treasured keepsake they can read whenever they need a pick-me-up.
Tip: Don’t worry about making it perfect. It’s the thought and effort that counts!
9. Try a New Restaurant Every Month
Make it a goal to try a new restaurant together once a month. Bonus points if it’s a cuisine you’ve never had before!
Why it works: It gives you something to look forward to each month and allows you to share new experiences. Plus, trying new foods together can be quite the adventure!
Make it extra fun: Take turns choosing the restaurant, but keep it a surprise until you arrive.
10. Create a Couple’s Bucket List
Sit down together and create a list of things you want to do as a couple. It could be travel destinations, life goals, or just fun experiences you want to share.
Why it works: It gives you shared goals to work towards and exciting things to look forward to together. It can also spark interesting conversations about your individual dreams and how they align.
Tip: Make sure to include both big dreams (like traveling to Japan) and smaller, more achievable goals (like watching the sunrise together).
11. Have a Themed Date Night
Pick a theme and go all out! It could be based on a country, a time period, a movie – whatever strikes your fancy.
Why it works: It’s a fun way to break out of your usual date night routine and can lead to lots of laughs and great memories.
Ideas to get you started: How about a 1920s speakeasy night? Or a Hawaiian luau in your living room? Maybe a Harry Potter marathon complete with Butterbeer and wands?
12. Start a New Fitness Routine Together
Whether it’s jogging, yoga, or hitting the gym, exercising together can be a great way to bond.
Why it works: You’re improving your health while spending quality time together. Plus, seeing your partner all sweaty can be pretty sexy!
Bonus idea: Set a fitness goal together, like running a 5K or mastering a difficult yoga pose. Working towards a shared goal can be very motivating.
13. Have a ‘Yes Day’
Here’s a fun one: pick a day where you have to say ‘yes’ to anything your partner suggests (within reason, of course).
Why it works: It encourages spontaneity and can lead to some hilarious and memorable experiences. Plus, it’s a great exercise in trust and going with the flow.
Important note: Set some ground rules beforehand to ensure everyone’s comfortable. And maybe set a budget too, just in case!
14. Create Art Together
You don’t have to be Picasso for this one. Get some art supplies and create something together. It could be painting, sculpting, collage-making – whatever appeals to you.
Why it works: Creating something together can be a deeply bonding experience. Plus, you end up with a unique piece of art that represents your relationship.
Fun idea: Try painting portraits of each other without looking at the paper. The results are usually hilarious!
15. Have a Pajama Day
Sometimes, the most romantic thing you can do is just be comfortable together. Designate a whole day to staying in your PJs, cuddling, and relaxing.
Why it works: It’s intimate, cozy, and allows you to enjoy each other’s company without any pressure to ‘do’ anything.
What to do: Binge-watch a TV show, read books side by side, have breakfast in bed – whatever feels good to you both.
16. Play ‘Tourist’ in Your Own City
Pretend you’re tourists in your own town. Visit attractions you’ve never been to, take cheesy photos, buy souvenirs – the works!
Why it works: It allows you to see your familiar surroundings with fresh eyes and can help you appreciate where you live. Plus, it’s just plain fun to act like tourists!
Tip: Look up your city on TripAdvisor and visit the top-rated attractions you’ve never been to.
17. Have a Tech-Free Candle-Lit Dinner
Turn off all the lights, light some candles, and enjoy a romantic dinner without any technological distractions.
Why it works: The soft lighting creates a romantic atmosphere, and the lack of phones or TV allows for intimate conversation.
Make it extra special: Cook together, or if cooking’s not your thing, order in from your favorite restaurant and plate it up nicely.
18. Start a Gratitude Practice
Each day, share one thing you’re grateful for about your partner or your relationship.
Why it works: It shifts your focus to the positive aspects of your relationship and helps you appreciate each other more. Plus, it’s always nice to hear why your partner appreciates you!
How to do it: You can do this verbally, write it in a shared journal, or even text it to each other if you’re apart during the day.
19. Plan a Surprise Weekend Getaway
This one takes a bit more planning, but it’s worth it. Surprise your partner with a weekend trip – handle all the details so they don’t have to worry about a thing.
Why it works: It’s exciting, romantic, and shows your partner you’re willing to put in effort to make them happy. Plus, travel is always a great way to create new memories together.
Tip: Make sure to consider your partner’s schedule and preferences when planning. The goal is to delight, not stress them out!
20. Take a Walk Down Memory Lane
Recreate your first date, visit places that are significant to your relationship, look through old photos together. Reminisce about how far you’ve come as a couple.
Why it works: It reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place and can reignite those early relationship butterflies. Plus, shared memories are the glue that holds long-term relationships together.
Make it special: Create a scrapbook or video montage of your relationship milestones to look back on together.
Wrapping It Up
There you have it, folks – 20 ways to add some spice to your relationship! Remember, the key here isn’t to do ALL of these things (unless you want to, in which case, go for it!). It’s about finding what works for you as a couple and making an effort to keep things fresh and exciting.
The most important thing is to keep communicating with each other. Talk about what you enjoy, what you’d like to try, and how you can continue to grow together as a couple. Remember, every relationship is unique, so what works for others might not work for you – and that’s okay!
Don’t be afraid to get creative and come up with your own ideas too. The best relationship-spicing ideas are often the ones that are personally meaningful to you as a couple.
Lastly, remember that it’s not about grand gestures all the time. Sometimes, the simplest things – like holding hands while you watch TV or leaving a sweet note in your partner’s lunch – can be the most powerful in keeping your connection strong.
So go on, give some of these ideas a try! Your relationship (and your partner) will thank you. Here’s to keeping the spark alive and the love flowing!
